Discussing the breakup monlogues with Rosie Wilby

Todays’ feature on the Sunday Tribune features a brief interview with Rosie Wilby from the excellent Podcast series ‘The Breakup Monlogues who is talking about her new book of the same name.

Andy N:

I know the breakup monologues started off as a Podcast series, can you tell us about where this came from?


The Breakup Monologues podcast launched in early 2018, inspired by a trilogy of comedy shows about the psychology of love and relationships that I had toured around the world over the last decade or so. The trilogy began with a show called The Science of Sex and ended with a show called The Conscious Uncoupling. This last show was all about my breakup story. After the show, friends and fellow performers would chat to me about their own breakup stories. So I decided to start a live chat show where other people shared their stories with me and we compared notes about how we had recovered from heartbreak and the more bizarre things we had done in failed attempts to woo partners back and so on. I was working on the age old premise that tragedy plus time equals comedy. When the live show started going really well, I decided we should record the conversations for a podcast. 


The idea of writing a second book was always in the back of my mind. I’d already written one called Is Monogamy Dead? That was based on the middle part of the aforementioned trilogy. It made sense to continue writing about relationships and follow that one up. 

Andy N: I know you have wrote a previous book called “Is Monogamy Dead?” in 2017.How did you new book compare to this?


The new book, The Breakup Monologues, follows a similar sort of narrative nonfiction format where my ideas and discoveries about the real science underpinning how our relationships work (and sometimes don’t) are embedded within my own story of trying to apply this learning in my real life. The first book ends with me meeting my current partner.  Andy N: Was your new book a easier book to write?


In some ways, the second book was harder to write because I’m writing about a relationship that I’m still in and one that I want to stay in. But one that I also want to write about critically. Relationships are really hard work once the initial honeymoon phase is over. And I wanted to represent that realistically. Many times it can feel like it would be so much easier to break up and walk away. But then you remember that you have built something really important with someone you love and trust and you should probably stay. 

Andy N: 6. What plans do you have next? 


It’s been a bit hard to make concrete plans during a pandemic because so much of what I’ve traditionally loved doing professionally involves performing onstage in front of an audience. As outdoor events start to happen again this Summer, I’ll be touring the live version of the podcast to some of those. Cambridge Comedy Festival and Primadonna Festival are confirmed so far. Eventually I hope to write another book. But, realistically speaking, there’s at least a year of hard work to do promoting this one before I can think about that. 

Andy N: Where can people find this book?


People can buy the book from all good bookshops, either online or in person. If your local bookshop doesn’t have it, then they will be able to order it. Alternatively you could ask your local library to get it. As well as the hardback and the kindle versions, I have also narrated an audiobook.

Rosie Wilby is an award-winning comedian who has appeared many times on BBC Radio 4. Her first book Is Monogamy Dead? was longlisted for the Polari First Book Prize. Rosie also presents The Breakup Monologues podcast, which was nominated for a British Podcast Award in 2020 and provides the inspiration and title for her brand new book. 

Andy N is the author of four full length poetry collections - the most recent being the Streets were all we could see. He is also the host / creator of 'Spoken Label' - a author / writer chat series as well as Podcast series such as Reading in Bed, Comics Unity, Wrestle-Up and the Koll, Andy N and Amanda show. He also ambient music under the name of Ocean in a Bottle. His official blog is onewriterandhispc.blogspot.com Occasionally he does sleep.